There is a formula used in the Forum that CAN be useful if used in the right way.
#1 What is the perpetual COMPLAINT/Issue you keep on having -either about yourself, someone else, or life in general
#2 HOW to you ACT when this complaint/issue Arises?
If your Reaction is one of the Following:
1) YOU Being Right or Someone/Thing ELSE Wrong
2) Being Dominant or Avoiding Domination
3) Justifying Yourself or Invalidating Others
4) You Winning/ Someone Else Losing
You are then depriving yourself of:
1) LOVE/ Affinity/ Connection
2) Genuine Self Empowerment
3) Self -Expression
4) Self -Fulfillment/ PEACE
For example, with ME:
-I complain/struggle with NOT Feeling Like I'm Good Enough
-I react by closing myself off and avoiding "taking risks"
-I do this by Justifying myself, by saying things like, "Well YOU can't do that amazing thing..."
-It then costs me Self-Expression and Sharing myself with other people
So stop giving into everything you're not. Take back what you deserve. Love, Power, Peace, Fulfillment.