Commitment

My friend Alex told me that in the Bible, God makes certain laws that may not make sense to people, but are ultimately there for a reason. You will find out why with time and experience. Through the Zodiac Signs I just figured out the reason for one I did not formerly understand.

My parents divorced when I was 4. They hate each other. Not hated. Still hate -even though they no longer have any reason to converse or acknowledge each others existence.

Most kids spend years cultivating the delusional hope that one day their parents will reconcile and come back together. I knew from the get go that the best thing was to keep those two as far apart from each other as humanely possible. Even phone conversations were violently explosive.

Divorce made sense in my mind. There are some many reasons to easily justify it. Both my parents are happily remarried. My Libra Dad to a Sagittarius (I'm working on getting along with) and my Libra mom to my Libra Step-Dad. The frequency of divorcing and remarrying make it a common social concept most people don' even blink at. We can acknowledge that 60 years ago Divorce was a concept rallied against with extreme resistance, but we can only acknowledge it -not fully understand those times and those sentiments. They are lost to us now.

Our culture today says, 1. You should wait to marry until you are older (late 20s early 30s) so you don't have to go through divorce which can be unpleasant. 2. Remarrying more than 4 times means your a slut who doesn't know what he/she wants. (It's excessive). 3. Marrying in Vegas means you don't really take your marriage seriously so don't expect anyone else to either. 4. If you are recently divorced you should Not "rebound" because everyone will just pity and think your acting like a flousy because you didn't try to commit to your marriage. 5. Marrying young is stupid because no one really knows who they are until 22-23 years old so 18-20 year olds are foolish and the marriage will not last.

Whatever. My previous view: Marriage is someing to be achieved for in it's highest standard. If you are going to marry and be in love and make that commitment -Hold nothing back andgive it your all. You can't half-ass love.

But as far as expecting 2 people to spend the rest of their lives together goes... Divorce makes sense. People change and not always in ways that converge with their partner's changes. People lose sight of love. How can you stay in a relationship you put 125% effort in when your partner only gives 2%? The numbers don't add up and why stay in a failed relationship with someone you don't want to be with?

Then I discovered the Zodiacs...

I initially thought relationships between signs were black and white. Or I guess blue and green, gray and red -Water and Earth, Air and Fire. If you are a Water sign you have a 90% compatibility with other Water signs and a 80% compatibility with Earth signs... and so on.

But I was mistaken. As it turns out there's Reasons why certain signs are compatible/ not compatible with other signs. Signs represent personalities and behavioral traits. It is a good general rule that Water/Earth, Fire/Air are compatible, but when you zoom in through a microscope you see where the they fall outside the lines.

In terms of compatibility, a Water sign can be a 70% good match with an Air sign and only a 60% ok match with an Earth sign. It's all about where the edges meet/ don't come together.

A Pisces is not 0% compatible with a Sagittarius. It's more like 50-60%. It's not Impossible it's just more Challenging for these two signs to stick together and get long. Instead of having one or two minor incompatibilities there are 5 or 6 bigger gaps they need to work on. They can be Overcome, it just takes more effort and more commitment.


No signs fall bellow a 40% of compatibility. No signs are Incapable of becoming compatible. It just takes more effort.

People make the mistake of expecting their love partner to be 100% compatible right off the bat. Even the Perfect Matches of signs are still 96%. There are Always going to be areas of mis-matchedness and these areas need to 1. Acknolwedged and 2. Overcome/ tended to -otherwise the whole thing can fall apart regardless of Percentages.

It all comes down to Knowing the areas of incompatibility and Working on them. Most people want Easy. When they see Hard they give up and That is why marriages and realtionships ultimately fail.

So God knew what He was talking about when he said Divorce is not needed. Marriage is a test of Commitment.

You can't just say, "Today I pledge my life and soul to God and commit myself to He alone completely."

 And then 3 days later say, "I feel like worshipping Zeus today..."

Your commitment means nothing. Commitment should Always mean something to those who choose to make it. But you can't say Commitment without actually giving it.

Marriage in it's highest form is a Commitment before God, family, and community between and the mate to your soul to be unified forever. You can be in a relationship with someone for 10 years, it's not going to change the fact that you are Not legally viewed as married or socially viewed as married. You have to make that commitment to receive that title.

Now my mom has over-riding Gemini tendencies with the consequent Vices associated with that sign. My dad has over-riding Pisces tendencies with the vices associated with that sign. The reason a Gemini and a Pisces are incompatible is because of the issue of Commitment. Pisces are clingy and want to be together forever. Gemini are more independent and want their space and freedom. Not good signs to commit to each other. My mom bailed out on my dad. They could have technically worked on their issues, but few people will ever look at themselves internally and overcome their flaws - even for their own benefit and even less likely for the benefit of some "greater cause".

Divorce isn't needed if people take the time to know themselves and the person they commit themselves and to and genuinely work through their issues instead of using them as an excuse to find an easier way out.

Some people will tell you Divorce isn't easy. But that's because they're avoiding the fact that Marriage is harder.