Control + Selfishness
There seem to be, from what I’ve seen, 2 main underlying
issues as to why people commit negative, harmful acts that ruin other people’s
lives and their own.
Issue#1 = Selfishness
Issue#2 = Control
Selfishness is pretty self-explanatory. You think of
yourself and not others or the consequences of the things that you do –you’re
going to cause pain.
Control is a little more subtle. Desire for control (over
other people or situations) comes out of insecurity and fear and leads to
dominance, greed, manipulation, power-hungry drive, wars…
Selfless v. Self-Less
But Selfishness and Control seem easy to fix. Just be
selfless and try to “go with the flow”. But then with selflessness another
issue can sometimes arise. There is a difference between being selfless and
being “self-less”. It’s a thin line and
you have to find the balance between:
-Contributing of your
soul to fulfilling projects and empowering others and
-Forgetting about yourself entirely and neglecting your own
life
Women especially have issues with this since they tend to
“take care of everyone” and are very likely to have inherent supportive
instincts rather than leadership instincts.
Being Useful v. Being
Used
Another similar issue is knowing the difference between when
you’re being useful, helpful, and supportive and when you’re being taken
advantage of.
You can feel the difference. If it isn’t mutually
beneficial, then don’t do it. Mutually beneficial doesn’t mean you need to get
paid or get something tangible out of the service you give. It means at the
very least your soul should be aligned with what you’re doing and feel greater
because of what you’re doing.
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